Hi Donna,

I totally understand your frustration and anger. But I agree with Dodie....we have no control over anyone else but ourselves. If your Mom wants to keep smoking, then she's going to have to deal with the consequences. I hope that doesn't sound harsh but you can't make her quit. She has got to be the one who makes that decision. Its not your job. You have been a caring and wonderful daughter. Hopefully with time your Mom will realize what's the healthy thing to do and do it!

Shelley

Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.