OP Supporting Member (50+ posts) Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 96 | Rita and Pete, We are planning on having a happy holiday season no matter what happens. We are going to drive down to MO. to see my sister and her family, and that is always fun and mayhem! I think it rejuvenates both of us and gets us out of cancer mode for a while. It also gives my sister lots of reasons to cook and try to fatten Ron up. Pete, I thank you for reminding me that things could always be worse and if Ron has to lose some more function as long as he is happy, it is worth doing. And yes, I am already on Xanax, especially for our stressful appointments. It really kind of keeps me in "secretary" mode instead of wife mode. I just make sure I write everything down and try not to react emotionally at that time. Ron doesn't need a thing! His attitude has never changed--he is always happy and ready and willing for whatever they want to do to him. It is me that has the problem. I am really trying to work on that, but it's hard at times, as I'm sure you know. Keep that sense of humor! You remind me a great deal of my husband. We have appointments on Monday and Tuesday of this week, then we are heading south to forget for a while! I wish all of you a wonderful holiday. Treasure those moments! Thank you all. Lori
Lori, cg to H Ron, age 56. Stage IV Oral SCC-T1N2. Tongue resected and right ND 8/05. Teeth removed, PORT, PEG, IMRT x33, Cisplatin x3. Tx ended 10/05. Recurrence 7/08 Stage IV. Surgery 8/30/08. 2nd recur. 11/08. 2nd surgery 2/2/09. 3rd recur. 4/9/09. Erbitux wkly. 5/09-? Ron died 6/6/09. Lori also passed away 8/20/11, colon cancer |