Lori, we all want reasons, answers and someone to blame - that is human nature. However, it is counterproductive to stay in that frame of mind ... so give it its moment and then move on ... I am so sorry your hubby (and you!) are having to face this again and I wish you the very best possible outcome. Nothing wrong with second or even third or fourth opinions if you feel someone else may have a better approach on it ... go with what you feel is what you want / need at the time ... I am sure this is a tough time but I hope you are able to have a happy holiday time together, letting this issue wait until Santa is back at the north pole to focus on too heavily. - all the best to you and yours -