I am overwhelmed reading this it has put many of my feelings into words. Certainly nothing foolish about your blog Tom!
"Brief if life, but long is love"

Adele,
mucoepidermoid carcinoma of the submandibular gland, 05/06, left neck dissection, gland and tumor removed, intermediate grade, margins negative, 9 lymph nodes negative, no rad, no chemo,
11/07 surgical biopsy of lymph node left neck, no cancer!