Soy is not bad if you are eating soy beans or natural versions of it. The problem with soy milk/soy proteins etc, is that they are now highly refined and have a whole bunch of crap added to them - they've been messed with so you really don't know what you're ingesting which is really sad. You also don't know how much natural soy you are getting and what else is in the drink/protein. Years ago everyone jumped on the soy bandwagon and now its so refined and genetically modified that on some cases it's actually not good for you depending on what you are buying. Also if you have any other issues (any kind of hormone related cancer) they recommend avoiding soy all together.
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