Just remember the thoughtlessness is THEIR problem, not yours. May not make the disappointment go away altogether but at least don't point any blame at yourself. Never know, a few might at least offer to bring over a plate or some gesture of kindness and respect. Don

Don
Male, 1955
Great health except C
Dec '12
DX: BOT SCC T2N2bMx, Stage 4a, HPV+, multiple nodes
1 tooth out
Jan '13
2nd tooth out
Tumor Board -induction TPF (3 cycles), seq CRT
4-6/2013
CRT 70gr 2x35, weekly carbo150
ended 5/29,6/4