Ambra I am so sorry you are not closer to where I live. Mind you we are Canadian so you'd be visiting in OCT! When we have our thanksgiving... Some people are insensitive and callous. It's so bizarre I have had a friend since grade three. The year I was diagnosed it was just before Christmas. I had called her two days before and told her I would like to take her out for dinner. Now she's a little set in her ways - she doesn't like to go out late, gets tired easily so figuring out a day and time was going to take some work. We agreed to do it just not when. I told her we would touch base. Then I got my Dx. Admittedly, it was my fault for not calling her back... However - I went into fix it up and get it sorted out and get through Christmas mode. I did wish her a merry Christmas. I think I ended up having to leave her a message. I did not tell her about my cancer until later (I didn't want to be a downer - and frankly that is part of the reason I hadn't pushed the dinner thing as well because I really want to give her my bad news over the festive season - Anyway, I ended up telling her after I had finished treatment - Mind you I kept people updated regularly via facebook so - likely she did know on some level. But I did realize something else while I was going through it all - I was the one who always used to pick up the phone and say - hey how are you? and coerce her into going out. My neighbor who I would classify as my BEST friend said - if I were her I would give you heck for not telling me. She just said sorry for what you've been through when we finally talked. I'm not sure if it's just her nature... or what but we're still friends but yet we generally go for months without talking at this point. SO it's more like distant friends.

I get that some people don't know what to do or say. But really some people are very wrapped up in who they are, their lives, and having a FUN time.
And if where you're going is a little off the beaten path and kinda scary... they don't want to go there.

hugs girl - hopefully it was a good day for you.