Thanks Anita. It's so hard for them and you feel like you're sinking into their pit of misery, which doesn't help anyone. You are right - it's necessary to take a break to get your own head straightened around. Luckily we live by a very nice seawall walk and we can get out every day, as it's at our back door. Also, important to get out with a friend and talk about something else for an hour once and awhile. This is a tough job, the toughest I've ever had. It changes you and your partner, and things will never be the same again. But I think you still have a choice about which direction your life will take after it's all over. Maybe appreciate a lot of thing you used to take for granted. Anne


Anne - CG to Gordon (59), non-smoker/non-drinker. SCC, BOT, HPV 16+, stage 3. Jan./10 - radical neck dissection to remove 48 lymph nodes, 1 node pos. Apr. 23/10 - finished 35 rad. and 3 cisplatin. Jul. 22/10 - PET scan clear.