Heike - It was good to see your post and to know that you are still with us. It is sad about the smoking. For some it really seems so very difficult to give up. But you cannot take on the responsibility for that. No one can make another person, think or feel or do anything that they are either not able or not willing to do.

Do take time for yourself even if it's just a walk around the block, lunch with a friend, seeing a funny movie, whatever gives you a break. It does help.