Donna - I wish I could be there with you, too! You had every right to be angry and to react as you did. I agree with Minnie in that you should tell her radiation department about the smoking and the rocks and stones. I'm sure they will consider all their efforts a waste of time if she continues to smoke. They could be spending their time on someone who really wants to be treated. My mother smoked and drank all her life. When I was 20, I couldn't take the smoke and the constant headaches it was giving me so I left home. My mother died of emphesema. I'll bet that if you mention the smoking and the rocks to the doctors, they may have some suggestions. Maybe a nicotine patch or even a fake one? You also need to think about your own health, too. Being around smoke is certainly not good especially for someone with asthma. Sometimes the caregiver needs to think about the caregiver or their caregiving will suffer. So, Donna - do something nice for yourself, right now.