Oh my goodness, Suez! Really pay attention to Meggie's advice and do consult an attorney. When my ex and I had separated, he in TN and I in Chicago, after a few months, he promised to quit drinking (many times over) but before I agreed to come to TN and reconcile, I told him he needed to put the house in just my name so that if divorced happened, I would still have a home for my children. We divorced and he's deceased now and I have the house but there are some conditions that could be a problem should I sell it which he had put in the divorce agreenent. So - please do consult an attorney to make sure there is no way you could have any problem in keeping what is yours. You do need to be practical and take care of YOU. If he sees you taking care of you and of your best interests, it may just shock him enough to start doing stuff for himself. Let him get his own burritos! (I think that's called "tough love")