thanks Cookey, and he's not my husband though together 13 yrs it's not in writing anywhere. and the house...it is mine, i got it when I got my divorce his name is not on it. I picked this guy...he was a mess, more than what he is now with his drinking and drug abuse(i know it's like me finding a stray dog lol)his family was/is astonished on how he has become so responsible and staying with me(he never was with anybody longer than 6 mo)having a steady job(he is now on disability since 08) and taking on raising my kids but it was NOT easy and of course it still isn't now with this dreaded disease messing with him again. I've dealt with his alcoholism and drug abuse is now just maybe some "smoke" every now and than which I don't mind but I sure wish it would kick in the appetite a lot more! He used to have a belly on him between his drinking AND my cooking I made him eat but before I met him his friends and cousins told me he would hardly eat, he drank beer all day long when he wasn't working and when he got home from work it was a 12 pack...he started up with a 6 pk and now up to a 12 pk again. as well as 2 packs of cigarettes a day. His credit card shows every day $15 dollars a day from the gas station up the street, you know how much that adds up to? OMG it's crazy. He only gets so much a month from social security and a whole $16 in food stamps. He is on medicaid and has been since 08. I can't help him anymore if he don't want it. I lay in bed and wonder if he will be dead when I wake up. How can he survive on beer and cigs?