Hi Delly. That sounds really awful that they said he might not swallow again. I'd adopt a wait and see approach. People who've had glossectomies tend to be able to swallow over time and with help from speech language therapists. I can imagine how dry his throat and mouth must feel. I felt like that for the first few days after surgery. It was hot, the air conditioning was inadequate and I wasn't allowed to drink. What helped me was when they put more fluid (water) in my food supplement. I can honestly say the thirst and dry mouth went away. When I could finally have some water it was an anti-climax. So maybe he needs more fluid.

I believe you need a lot more support. When he has radiation he'll need it, so push that nursing service to provide him with visits. I live alone and had weekly visits from the Cancer Society nurse until about a week after rads ended.

Please don't feel guilty about eating and drinking. Be as positive as you can with him. Take it one step at a time.

Best wishes.