Hi Delly,
I can totally relate to everything you are saying because I too was a scared daughter - i worried about whether my father could talk again, eat again, and be himself again. It is totally okay to be scared! It WILL get better - for you and him. Overtime, you will learn to accept it! This site is a great site - i read everything everyone said to my dad every single day - i kept reminding him that there are so many people going through this and they are okay, they are doing great and they are still fighting! Remember to be positive and keep cheering him on ( even if you dont feel so positive )
My father had an excellent speech therapist that helped him chew mild stuff like mashed bananas, half boiled eggs, and milkshakes post op. Within a few months, he was eating porridge, steamed fish, and thick avocado juices. I would recommend u to get a speech therapist ASAP.
I'm praying for you and a speedy recovery for your dad.