thanks for the responses! I'm certainly no expert and it's not me going through this but it just makes sense to not take the chance of going down the path that hasn't gone away yet and will accelerate after this chemo/radiation treatment. I guess he needs to learn each lesson the hard way. It's the way he's always been in life so I shouldn't expect anything different I suppose.


Spouse of 58 yr old with BOT cancer
Stage 4a HPV16 positive
3 chemo treatments cisplantin
35 radiation treatments 7000 cGy
former smoker/chewed tobacco for 38 yrs.
1/2020 diagnosed with cancer near TMJ
4/2020 chemo 5 days every 2 weeks
6/2020 proton therapy
9/21/2020 cancer free