My son only joined this forum for a short time and only because I urged him. After a short time, he told me it depressed him to see what others were going through. He was already in therapy for depression so I understood. He didn't seem to want my suggestions and I thought maybe it was because I was his mother and being a 33 year old (at the time) it didn't go well with him to have his mother telling him what to do or even making gentle suggestions. So - I just printed out all the positive ideas I found here and I surreptitiously left the pages by his bedside while he was sleeping so he could "notice" them when he awoke. That way, it wasn't his mother telling him what to do. A couple of days later his attitude did improve.

Colleen, the only suggestion I would have is that if you buy stuff to try it out on your husband, just get the very smallest quantity if you can. I had bought the large economy size of a powder that would add calories (don't remember the name) and the health food store guy assured me it was absolutely tasteless but when I put about a scant tablespoon of it in my son's milkshake, and he took a very small sip of it, he said it tasted awful and would have no part of it. Tastes change so rapidly that something palatable one day can be completely horrible the next day.

" T" - If you get something together for Caregiver Survival, depending on what the admins think, I would love to put it on my own personal website where I have a section for OCF related information.