It's true, Colleen - It's really tough on the survivor/patient just dealing with the assault on his body with Tx and meds. Must be especially hard on guys who are so used to being in control and being the "decider" in so many areas. Any change in life carries a lot of stress with it and the loss of a former way of life is right up there at the top of the list. It's been six+ years since the end of my son's Tx, but I still remember those gloomy days of non-communication. I asked my son once why he could brighten up and smile when his then 5-year old daughter or some of his close friends came to visit but never for me, and he told me that he only had a small amount of energy to spare and he had to "save it up" for when his daughter or others came to visit and it did help me to understand. The two weeks right after Tx ended were the worst for Paul, but by then, he was a lot better emotionally about dealing with the rough days since he knew it was definitely going to get better. Remember to take care of you, too. And stay in touch here.