Yep I go to work every day 5 days a week! He used to even get mad at me for doing that and leaving him than he would say "Go to work you need to do that so you can take care of the house and don't miss any work on my account" Ya back and forth, mean, nice, mean, nice. And he is not a mean person at all, he is loving, compassionate and a very giving person. When I met him he never had a relationship that lasted more than 6 mo and his life was partying every day, he didn't have a job very long or any credit to his name. I tamed the tiger the family says. And all I did was not take any of his stupid crap and show him there is more to life than waking up and drinking. We've been together 14 yrs almost and it had it's moments. But I'd miss the goof even though I've kicked him out many times in the past. So back to his meaness, it was the drugs and the unknown of what life will be like and losing his ability to eat like he used to when he did eat and not just drink. Now he has gotten totally 100% so much better!! His attitude is great, his appetite is great, and he is very nice to me. I just did want I wanted to do, like I go usually 2 times or more a month out to eat with my kids,(and Ron has given me money to do it too when I was short cash!) I've gone to the Casino a couple times with my family, and he is all for me getting out of the house. He does have his moments, like yesterday he tried eating my beef barley veggie soup I made and he yelled at me for putting in carrots cuz he can't eat them...I just gave him a look like...ya riiight THAT would make it taste good without em. He just took them out and put them on another plate and continued eating the soup without another word... Ya just have to do your own thing Sal, like tough love. I just told myself "it's not my fault this has happened to him so I don't need to be punished for it" (is that bad?)You need you time or is it me time? lol whatever it is take it and enjoy (at first you may feel guilty)but it will start to feel wonderful when you can go I've even gone to BW3's on Tues Wing Night all by myself when he wouldn't go with his trach and NG in, it don't bother me at all and now if I want to go and nobody else can he will go with me!
Good Luck hang in there! It will get better