Wendy, I understand exactly what you are talking about. I get the same thing all the time. Oh, would YOU be able to do that? or Is that going to be too much for YOU? Bunch of crap!!!! I can set my own limitations. I listen to my doctors and still will make my own decisions if I can do something or not. Like swimming, not supposed to do it with a feeding tube. Last summer, I went to a water park and went on water slides just like I would have before I got sick. Sure I got tired quicker than before but for a few hours I forgot I ever had cancer. Dont let others dictate what he can or cant do. Tell them he is an adult and will decide for himself. Its not being rude, THEY are trying to be polite but it really is rude to mentions someones past illnesses. Too bad people cant think before they speak.

I wish you both many happy and healthy years doing everything and going everywhere you both want.