Wendy

Sounds like one of the posts in our "Don't you just hate it" thread. You are right that the OCF forum members understand your frustration since those reactions are unfortunately not uncommon. The most important thing is that you and Steve both realize that you determine what you can and can't do now.

A lot of how people react depends on appearances. I grew a handlebar mustache after TX because if I keep my mouth shut, hide my feeding tube under the shirt and smile, I look really healthy. As time goes by, this problem should get better,
I'm hoping that as more prominent people like MD get this cancer and then come back to live an active life, we won't have to deal with it as much.

You have a great attitude. finally, as my cybername here implies, I've given myself until 2017 to be "charming", so I don't worry about "upsetting" rude people. I prefer to think of it as continuing adult education when I ask "so, I can count on you to come to my funeral then? Should we pencil it in now on your calendar/blackberry?
Charm