Anne Marie - I would take a photo of your son with a big grin, relay his present story in a card to her and then tell her that she's obviously not all that bright! But nicely... Terminal my butt, really you should explain to her how you and he felt that day sometimes a wakeup call is needed.
Hugs!

Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan