Lisa

I'm a very tough guy and I cried when I read your post. There are no easy answers. You can see from all the advice given here that your story has touched many others. The only silver lining in this dark cloud is to realize that being abandoned by "friends" is all too common an occurence for oral cancer patients so you are NOT alone in that regard. Many of us who are blessed with caregivers supportive loved ones also feel very guilty about the pain we are inadvertently causing them. There is no good way to get oral cancer, not alone nor with the support of others. Take some time and read the stories here so you can start to believe that there is indeed a light at the end of this tunnel.
Keep the Faith
Charm