Lisa, you sound like a very intelligent, articulate person. You also sound like a great person to know and I wonder if there is some sort of cancer support group where you could talk to people with the same experience. (I sometimes think, here in NZ, that it would be easier to get breast cancer because there are support groups galore. I know no-one with oral cancer.)

You are so young to be going through this. You sound depressed - I've had cancer related depression so can understand oh so well where you are coming from.

After my first cancer I became depressed when I recovered, of all things. It's crazy:) Several people supported me when I was sick then backed off when I got better. I was still vulnerable and it hurt a lot. I took SRI antidepressants which were of great benefit to me. In fact I gained a sort of confidence I'd never had in my life before. So I can only sing the praises - although I'm trying to get off them now. I'm using cognitive behavioural therapy and spoke to a councillor who had been an experienced cancer nurse. She challenged my thinking.

You are not alone!