Jim no one really has a mean character for no reason.I am sure you remember the terrible time i had with rob.He was verbally abusive toward me and at times mentally i felt like i imagine a battered wife feels,Nothing i ever did was right and i got the blame for everything.The hardest part is keeping perspective of the reasons why someone you love is being so awful towards you,pain,drugs particularly steroids and narcotics,fear,anger ,frustration.Severe depression is more a feeling of rejection for the carer as the person with the depresson withdraws away from you,and won't communicate.

As for you....men have selective memories even when they are well....lol