Hi Wendy, one of the "things" I used with my husband that helped his mental attitude was to really "listen to" one something that was bothering him during a particular part of his tx. and then research it on this forum - I would ask questions and then print responses how other people were dealing with the same thing- and then I would leave the printed pages lying out where I knew he would see them, like I had been reading them [ he would not get on the forum either] Sure enough he started reading what I had left laying around and before long he was asking me to ask questions about things he was dealing with. There were many posts and much information that helped both of us durig our journey with this disease and it helped John know that he was not alone. As a caregiver, you will need to use every resource available to you to get the both of you through this. And OCF is gonna help you all the way. Amy in the Ozarks