I know, I don't think he is trying to control the incontrolable, but maintain the balance he has fianlly achieved handling the medecine he is on. His oxynorm is giving him terrible bowel problems which he has to fix with Movicol, which makes him nauseus so he takes ondemet. That's the main ones he is worried about. He has just the right balance for him and I think he just doesn't want to add anything more, in case he gets back to the agonising trips to the mens room like before.
On the depression note, he went to see the surgery team and saw one of the seniors. The doctor was appalled that he hadn't had blood test with his fainting and blood pressure and is concerned about his fatigue. He had x-rays and bloods taken (they ticked every single box as for what they where testing for) and needs to go back in a week for the results. He is so much more positive, i think it's because someone finally decided to treat him, not just the disease.
He is also taking loads of the advice you give us.
Thanks you are all great.