[quote]"I was to the point that I wanted the doc to prescribe him something to deal with his depression or prescribe me something so I could deal with him."[/quote]

Had to chuckle at this - so true!.....I have been a caregiver before - to my mother recovering from three surgeries over a couple years for intestinal blockages, and for a SO with heart disease. As soon as my husband got the diagnosis I went straight to my doctor and asked him to prescribe something for me. I tend to carry my stress in my shoulders and hunch them up thus causing a great deal of pain in my neck (literally) from a bulging disk. I think my exact words were "give me something to get my shoulders out of my ears!" I knew I was not going to have the time or inclination to deal with my own aches and pains through Mike's treatment. I've been basically pain free and much less stressed - not a bad thing. Mike is on Ativan to deal with the mask right now and as of today is also on an antidepressant. Whatever it takes to get through this. Cecilia, I hope you or someone else close to him is successful in getting Martin to try an antidepressant but don't forget about taking care of yourself. I wish I had been smart enough to get some help for myself with my earlier CG experiences.