Altho I know it is totally inappropriate and not at all what Bonnie needs to hear, I am reduced to falling out of my chair laughing at Pete's post.

Bonnie, you are in a really tough spot. It sounds like your hubby is saying "O.K. thats over" while you and Teri know that this will never be "over". It may take a visit by your hubby to your therapist to enlighten him on the long term emotional effects of a life threatening disease. [hope you can get him to go] If you and your husband have a good communication base, this is not a marriage crisis. It is an issue that you haven't had to deal with before and now you do. You both need to find the common ground. [easier said than done sometimes Amy in the Ozarks