You bring up a good point, Jim - when my son's Tx ended, I felt I had lost my "security blanket' and I was only the CG - the routine we had settled into was suddenly gone and we both were having to face a new "uncharted territory". So we both had losses to overcome and decisions to make which can be scary and leave us wondering "what now?" I like what Rob said about how important it is for the survivor to feel empowered and in charge of the situation. It really helps to know or feel that no matter what the situation is, that there is always something we can do about it. And Bonnie - let us know how YOU are doing!