Hi Bonnie, just wanted to share that after John was finished with surgery [a big one] and radiation, all he wanted was to be left alone to sleep and try to regain a "sense of the world". After a couple of weeks, I labeled it "depression". I was wrong! He was just trying to combat the real pain he was in and get through each day. AS caregivers, we see much of what our loved ones are dealing with - but we do not feel the pain. Teri is not very far out of tx. yet. The fact that she makes the effort to get the kids to school and be up when they get home is great! If she is anything like John, she doesn't want to have to deal with anyone else in the interim- She just wants to rest. For now, I think your best help is to see that the pantry and freezer are stocked, run any errands and keep the household chores done. Don't make her feel inadequate! She has a long way to go to regain her physical and emotional strenght. This advice is coming from the "nurse from Hell" as John fondly[I think] calls me. Amy