 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Bonnie,
Try to get her to visit this site. If she will just begin to read what others have posted I believe she will begin to see that her feelings are perfectly normal. I did not find this site until 2 weeks after my Tx had ended but believe me I found immediate mental comfort just knowing that what I was experiencing was normal. People are different and how we deal with adversity is not uniform. Perhaps she just needs the comfort of being "around" others she can relate to. This is the soft love approach.
If that doesn't work, then drag her butt to a professional and lock the door. This is the tough love approach.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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