I'm not sure I have anything to add, but ...

Shortly after my son's surgery, when his surgeon and the RO were sparring about whether he needed radiation or not, we had a lengthy visit with the RO. He gave us all kinds of facts and numbers -- and even used the "D" word (death, die, died) a few times.

At the end of our time with him, I asked, "So, what do we do now?"

He smiled and said, "You go out and enjoy the day."

Ultimately, my son decided against radiation. He goes for monthly checks with The Surgeon We Kind Of Think Of As a God and his first post-surgery CT scan is this Friday. Do I worry? Does He? Yes and YES!

But each time I ask myself 'What If?' I find myself answering, "You go out and enjoy the day."

And, somehow, that makes it a little better.

Best of luck to you,
Darcy (Matt's mom)