As Gary states above so well, I don't think that anyone is ever totally free of the fear of recurrence, but it does lessen with time. Here's how I know it has with me - the first time I had to order new disposable contact lenses, which was right after I had recovered from my surgery, although I usually order a 12 month supply if I have had a recent eye exam, I could only bring myself to order 6 months worth... I just was afraid of what might be in a year, and couldn't plan that far ahead. However, when I needed to re-order, I took a leap of faith and ordered a years supply....
But, hardly a day goes by that I don't look in my mouth and at my tongue with my new friend, my trusty little flashlight... just can't help it...