Peace --

In addition to the wise advice posted above, encourage your husband to get on this site. Learning what others in situations similar to yours have encountered will help him understand what you will be going through.

In addition, family members and caregivers have their own concerns, and this is the place to address them.

Have you determined where your treatment is being done? If you ended up at UVa or another CCC (VCU in Richmond is the other one in Virginia), they will have people on staff who have worked with many, many patients in your position and are devoted to helping you through all of this.

All the best,
Leslie

Leslie

April 2006: Husband dx by dentist with leukoplakia on tongue. Oral surgeon's biopsy 4/28/06: Moderate dysplasia; pathology report warned of possible "skip effect." ENT's excisional biopsy (got it all) 5/31/06: SCC in situ/small bit superficially invasive. Early detection saves lives.