I had a very close friend who disappeared when I was going through my cancer treatment. She never called, or stopped by to see how I was doing. This hurt. I realize that some people just dont know how to deal with cancer. It reminds them of their own mortality. I have forgiven her, but I cant forget.
The people on this board are so supportive and will be there for you if you need anything. I know it would be ideal for your own family to step in but sometimes you just have to work with what you've got!
I felt terrible about my appearance also. It will get better. AMK is right, the swelling will go down and the scars will fade. You are still to early out to determine what it will look like after your face heals.
Keep in touch. We will be here for you.