This is sorta an aside-the posts above to Gordon are all so beautiful that I don't have anything better to add-but one thing strikes me while reading through them. It is the statement that often friends and family members are scared of cancer patients and react by disappearing. I don't see my husband's dealing with his head and neck cancer or my friend's loss of both breasts any differently than I see an amputee or a sightless or deaf person or any number of other battles with diseases that may result in some physical imparement.I'm not "scared" of any of them. In fact, in our business, we make a point of identifying any physical or mental impairments so that we can design for maximum function and safety for the client and family. I truly admire folks who are strong enough emotionally to find the glass 1\2 full. They are the people I want to emulate. Keep going Gordon,you will find many people who will admire your guts and determination. Amy