Wow, Friends.
I've been away from the board for awhile (my computer was infected and I had a hard time re-connecting) and have been really missing everyone. Gordon, I cannot add anything to what has been said, but boy, do I remember the heartache and anguish we went through in this household while Tom was going through treatments. Luckily, we have a very loving and supportive family, but I know how hurt he was when his very best friend totally dropped out of the picture. We both know it was out of fear; the fellow was afraid of losing Tom and just didn't know how to act around him. Others stepped right up to the plate, coming to visit, taking him to appointments, etc. You do find a whole range of sensitivities during a time like this. Tom, too, felt very ugly and did not want to go out. It wa so hard for him at Christmas, when he looked his very worst....everyone was at our house and I know it was hard on him. But we love him, and it really didn't matter to us. When I look back at those pictures I am amazed at how much he has improved. While I doubt I'll ever see him the way I 'remember,' I am thrilled with how he is progressing and just happy to have him hear. The was a rough road, but the other side has shown that we have grown in our own capacities for consideration, compassion and respect. We do truly realize that when others go through difficult times, they need us. We notice people with disfigurements and now do recognize that a direct smile feels so much better (to us!)than glancing away from them, and we are sure it makes for a nicer day for them.

I hope I'm not just rambling....my vertigo is in full swing and it makes it hard to think straight....but I did want to add my prayers and best thoughts to those sent by our friends here.
They were rocks for us and will always be in our prayers.
Nicki