No... Surgery may debulk the tumor but as extensive as it is it it would severely hinder her quality of life. Radiated skin does not heal well - leaving her open to infection since the wound may have trouble healing, then with what sounds like a lot of cancer in situ, chances are they will not get it all and what's left will also prevent healing. So they will cut her, stitch her up but likely she will not heal this will leave her with an open would or a poorly healing mess. Also Erbitux is NOT curative - god bless her as she seems a fighter, but paying for more treatments is more cruel than not. I say this because its a knee jerk reaction to want to hold onto someone we love - and it's the hardest thing to do to let them go, but out of love sometimes this is what we should do because forcing them to go on causes more suffering. I watched my dad who was a vital man die a horrible death this year. He did not deserve it, and as much as I wanted to have him with me trying to force them to do anything beyond normal treatment (life saving measures) would have confined him to a life he didn't want to live. One of emotional and physical pain. It was the hardest thing to do to let him go, but I was there with him every step of the way and he knew I loved him. If he had indicated for one second that he wanted a feeding tube I would have had one ordered for him, but that would have meant he'd live out the rest of his life In a nursing home in a bed for 23 hours a day and in pain. He didn't want that and I couldn't do it to him. Hugs this is heart breaking for your hubby's family I am sure, but sometimes out of love we have to say no.