We had the same issues. Women closest to me were just...gone. My sister set up a helping hands account for us for meals and ironically most of my friends didn't help at all. But, people I didn't even know brought meals, send gift cards for meals, it was crazy where the support came from. The funny thing is some of these women have never contacted me since either. I think they are embarrassed for disappearing and don't know what to say now. I have to say I harbor some hurt still so haven't contacted them either, and we are a year and a half out of tx!!
Hang in there, you will make new friends because there will be others who KNOW exactly what you are going through...like us!!
Kathy