Hi Shadow

Maybe a counsellor associated with a hospice or just the hospice for advice on how to handle the future?

I personally have no issue if she is choosing this way to die, but she (and you) needs to be very clear that there is a big risk that this is what she is doing.

I guess what I am trying to say is that your wife needs to understand the consequences of not eating, and everyone around her needs to be sure the decision is an informed one and not driven by depression or some other chemical imbalance, that might be clouding her judgement.

Clearly as her life partner and carer, you are already aware that you don't get to make the decision for her, and it is your job to support her in whatever she needs to do, but you DO get a vote at least. Are you okay with what she is doing? Are you confident she is making a considered decision and is fully aware of the consequences?

I am very sorry you are both going through this, it is something I dread myself - either making such a decision or supporting someone who has.