Talk to me about guilty and whiny... I feel that is my song and dance. In my case, the roles are reversed with me (the cancer patient/survivor) feeling guilty and whiny about pushing the sex issue (like, um, can we have some please) and my partner the hesitant one. And then me thinking: what's my problem, she did so much for me when I was sick, give her a break... and then the flip side, damn't all, I went through hell, let's have fun. But it's never as easy as that, right? Still, the dialogues in my head runs a little like that. It's hard to know what normal is going to look like for us. It sure doesn't feel like normal right now. Cancer does have a way of straining a relationship. Oh, and I forgot to mention in my last post that we asked the doctors - way back in the winter when this nightmare began - about sex and if we could "proceed as usual" and they said, yes, fine. There was no restraints on what we could or could not do. All situations are different, but you might find that useful. Be well. -Michelle