Hi Wanda, I'm not sure if it is standard of care where you live, but the HPV test for women over 30 is standard here. I wasn't even aware that I had been screened for it until I called my doc in a panic after the DX.

Our resident (OCF/Playboy) Forum advisors are spot on, so to speak. Great advice.

I suggest that you hold out for a while--whatever seems like a long time (a couple days, maybe Oops, weeks...not days...is "weeks" a long time?!). Send him some naughty text messages and/or e-mails about scenarios and fantasies you'd like to explore (role playing, public sex, oh...my mind is wandering...etc.). Create vivid images and touch on all senses in your descriptions. Make sure they do not involve him going down--it might turn him off. Dress seductively to make him stand up and take notice. Get out your seduction tool-kit and go to work, girl! Be a little out of reach--pull back. But don't put out. At. All. until he can kiss you passionately on the mouth and other places as well...and enjoy it.

You can also disappear into your bedroom for some private time with your electronic friend. Make sure you buy one that humms loudly enough that he can hear (unless you have kids around--that would scar them for life.)

In my experience, when someone says that something will "eventually" happen...it happens at glacier pace if at all. That's bullshit...sorry, but it is. He has no intention of "going there." So, if desperate times call for desperate measures...my suggestions might fit the bill.