I have to jump in here...our sex life has definitely changed since OC. While we still enjoy a variety of intimate connections, deep kissing is not one of them. My husband has no feeling on one side of his mouth, his tongue movement is restricted, and he also has increased saliva flow that makes him self-conscious about drooling. We still kiss but they are little kisses on the lips on his good side.

I do miss deep passionate kissing. I have resigned myself that this is a part of our past and I'm okay with that. OC has put a real damper on a lot of things in our lives not just sex. We work hard to make up for some of those losses in other ways. But that's another topic. To spice up our sex, I love to dress up and we role play. We've been doing that forever. Boy, is that fun! It gets things going in the right direction. I also think that when I initiate those bedroom antics, Clark is reminded that he still turns me on. That is so good for his ego. And I indulge myself with toys as well.

I empathize with you, Wanda. I feel sad when I realize how much OC has impacted and changed our lives. I hope that you and John can work this out. Keep the communication open and continue to tell him what you want from him. It may be that he has to hear it many times before he can act on it.

All my best-
Anita