grin Thanks guys I appreciate the suggestions. I figured I wouldn't get a lot of responses on this subject since a lot of people generally aren't comfortable talking about sex. For me it's one of my favorite subjects. Like I said - I do have a great sex life with John but it's not like it was BC (before cancer) and I do miss the passionate kisses and oral sex. My doctor has always screened me for HPV since my pap smear in 1993 came back with cervical dysplasia. I have LOTS of "toys" and batteries and know how to pleasure myself - that's not the problem. Kissing my husband passionately brings a deeper connection. I sometimes feel selfish complaining about what is missing when we have so much and I know there are others who don't even have a sex life let alone a satisfying one.

I was hesitant to post this to begin with because I know that others are dealing with so much more that it makes me feel selfish. frown

I appreciate all the suggestions and I guess I will have to try holding out for a little while and have "dates" with myself. grin


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Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2