@Wanda: Okay, let's see...you were called into active duty as a caregiver in 2009, you saw him through rads and chemo and all that those treatments entail...including the option/non-option of a PEG. Selfish to want attainable parts of your life restored? Nope.

I'm with you--it's one of my favorites, too. Actually, since I'm looking at being single again, I consider no oral sex a deal breaker. Despite all the problems we've had with other things...sex was one area that kept going strong, at least until recently. But, it is scary about all the diseases out there. And, I don't just believe in safe sex...but the more extreme "you can't be too safe sex". Let's just say, I'm pretty self-sufficient these days.

My sons tell me I need to find some real live friends...not just electronic friends. Oh! they are referring to the amount of time I spend on here and facebook connecting with people who I don't get to meet or see face to face...and not the battery operated kind. I think they're right. I need to get out more.

Good luck! I hope he can get back into it. It isn't so bad never having had something--but having something you enjoy and then having it withheld...that's bad.

@ Eric: Diesel--Peterbilt? Volvo? I thought I had the top-of-the-line when I bought my Craftsman Bushwacker 5000. Makita has been making some strides in cutting into Sear's marketshare for hand-held personal massage devices. But, I think a diesel model would blow away the competition. That is, if they can do something about the exhaust...and the pull cord starter.