He shouldn't be taking pain pills and drinking, that might me the problem. I was a caregiver for 18 months my late husband had Stage 4 throat cancer 12 years ago. We didn't know about Cancer Centers at the time. He was so positive, loving and caring. He never lashed out at me. I don't think I could have handle it if he did, we went through hell together.

We both knew the end was coming he left me the most beautiful letter thanking me for helping him.

Your husband should be thankful he has you to help him and YOU need your space to do things you want so you won't end up in the looney bin. Once a week I went to lunch with the girls that was my time away for a few hours, it helped me to cry on their shoulders, they didn't mind.

He should be thinking about you and your feelings. A year into my husbands illness he called my best friend in NY and asked her to fly down that I needed new clothes and I refused to go shopping for myself when he was sick. He thought about me. Your husband should be thinking about you.

All I can say is how dare him treat you this way. I hope I haven't stepped out of line, but you have taken this treated way too long. He needs to help himself before he lets anyone else help him. You're working and to come home to this I think I would runaway.

I'm sorry your're going through this time and time again, but enough is enough. And yes Life Is Too Short to be mentally abused.

Connie