Caregivers have such a difficult and often thankless job. Ron has no idea how hard it would have been to get thru this without you there helping him every step of the way. Nobody should be treated with such a lack of appreciation! Ron sounds like he cant cope with his illness and takes it out on anyone and everything in his path. That is so unfair to you and all the little pets too. Ive never liked bullies and that is how he has behaved. I can only hope that one day he realizes everything you have done for him and will show you some appreciation and thanks. Ron needs to come to terms with his illness and understand that his attitude is hurting those who love him. His smoking and drinking is detrimental to his recovery. I have a very hard time understanding how anyone who has gone thru treatment for OC could even consider picking up another cigarette. That is like begging for a recurrence.

I was looking at some events my local hospital offers. They have several groups for caregivers. That could be a good place for you to find some face to face help. Take care of yourself and know that you have done a good job and you dont need Ron to say it, you know you did the best you could. Im sure you would benefit from going to a caregivers support group. Be strong! You know its not you he is angry at. Its the cancer and Ron just has his anger misplaced.