Suez - You really need a break. I'm so sorry about Beedy and your daughter's loss. It's very common for alcoholics to not remember stuff. When I was with my ex - there were many times he could not remember what happened the day before. Whatever you decide about Ron you have to make very sure that you follow through and do what you say because otherwise, he won't believe anything you say and will keep giving you grief. For example, if you tell him he has to shape up or ship out and find himself another place to stay, you have to stick with that decision and not take him back just because he's sweet talking you. You have to be consistent like you are with children (most alcoholics are very immature in their thinking). If you tell a child "no more candy" and then later give them candy because they are having a tantrum, then that's what will happen all the time. . . candy and tantrums. You can let it be Ron's choice: Either he chooses to get with the program or he finds another place to stay. How about that? I know it's harder to say than to do . . . Goodness knows, it took me 20 years! Don't let it be 20 years for you!