I thought of something else that might help too. If you have another space in the house where you live, sleep in another room. You need to get your rest and have a space of your own. My husband and I are not fighting but he needs to sleep by himself so that he can get in and out of bed as often as he wishes.

I love having my own little bedroom with a candle, books/magazines and peace. I have to say that I do agree that he is on a self-destructive path. It is hard to leave someone when they are sick but on the other hand, abuse is abuse. If you cannot tolerate it or fear for your safety then let him get visiting nurses or other people to take care of him and take some time away to think.

Keep us posted. We are here for you.

Ellen