Suez - Such good advice above. You need to find some face to face help for yourself. In addition to the illness making him so angry and hurtful, the alcohol alone can turn a person into a monster as well. If you engage in back and forth hurtful dialogue or worse, it will only continue. You cannot reason with someone in that state. If you walk away or refuse to participate, it has a better chance of ending the hurtful episodes. Sounds to me like Ron is testing you to the limits - and that is something you certainly don't deserve. You can't "fix" him. You cannot change someone if they don't want to change or get help. You can only change yourself. Start taking care of you, Suez.